We don't have tips in Italy but I got to term with the art of tipping. I leave 10% and that's it.
Still, I get quite pissed when there is cover charge, plus tipping, plus trapito.
But my question for today is about the proper manner to tip.
I got into an argument with my husband a few years ago, after we had recently moved here, because he said I was misleading the waiter into huge tips.
What happened is that whenever the waiter approached our table, I said 'thank you', whether it was to take our orders, bring the beverages, taking away empty dishes or serving the bill.
Since I said 'thank you' also when the waiter was leaving the table with the money, my husband claimed that my saying 'thank you' was understood as 'no change', i.e. keep everything. He got mad at me several times saying that they understood I was leaving hundreds of pesos in tip. Once he run away from the restaurant in full rage, while I remained sat to wait for the change. Which arrived.
Did the waiter took pity on me because he understood that, as a foreigner, I was saying 'thank you' out of politeness and not to say that he could keep the change?
Or is my husband wrong on this?